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When Bad Things Happen to Good People

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“God’s world is flawed and less than perfect, just like the people I love.”

Rabbi Harold S. Kushner is the Rabbi Laureate of Temple Israel in Natick, Massachusetts and the beloved author of his bestselling book, When Bad Things Happen to Good People. It’s a memoir reflecting on how Kushner’s relationship to God changed after his son, Aaron, was born with a rare and painful premature-aging disease called Progeria.  Kushner says Aaron’s death at the young age of thirteen forced him to re-consider everything he’d been taught in rabbinical school.

“I had to leave behind the idea that if you’re good, God rewards you. It took me years to come to the understanding that God does not send the problem, God sends us the grace to handle the problem.”419GM2PAPPL._SX322_BO1,204,203,200_ - Copy

This was a major departure from Kushner’s original orthodox training, now rejecting the idea that God was all-powerful and hands out problems to people as punishment or so they’ll learn from the experience. Instead, Kushner embraces the concept that in order to preserve man’s free will, God created the world with a natural order of rules that must be obeyed, even by Him.  This revelation gave Kushner an answer to some of his biggest and hardest spiritual questions.

“The answer I got, was for my wife and myself to find within ourselves the ability to accept and love a world in which bad things happen to good people.  To let the goodness, and the love, and the kindness, and the humor, and the helpfulness… to let them dominate our perception of what we see when we look at the world. To not to let the rare misfortune define what the world will mean to us.”

It’s a timely message, which resides at the very heart of the Rabbi’s latest and he says last book titled: Nine Essential Things I’ve Learned About Life. (Knopf, 2015.) The book is a collection of key lessons Kushner has learned over his long and venerated life as a beloved rabbi and an admittedly flawed human being. In this final message to his readers, Kushner encourages people to challenge their beliefs and accept their lives imperfections and all. He believes deeply in the power of the second chance and says forgiveness is a favor you do for yourself.

“A good life doesn’t have to be 100% safe or 100% successful. People can fail, people can make mistakes. people can make seri32d3f12db13de751d2623e58470b80fcous mistakes, mess up their first marriages and embark on a second one, deform their children because they were such inexperienced parents, offend people who deserve better from their hand…and it doesn’t mark them forever. You can repent. You can outgrow your mistakes and if you realize they were mistakes, you can lean in the other direction and make sure you never do anything like that again.”

Rabbi Kushner says this final book is a sort of guide for people trying to survive a sometimes cruel and unkind world. He says that despite all the bad news we’re bombarded with every day- we must remember how much in our world has already changed for the better.

“What you do is look at history and look at how we’ve changed. Things which were acceptable a hundred years ago, are completely unacceptable now. I’, 80 years old and things which you could get away with in my lifetime, like racial prejudice, religious prejudice, disregarding the needs of women, these were all commonly accepted, they defined our culture. But in the space of one person’s lifetime, all that has changed. It gives me hope that what still stains the world today  – will one day be solved as well.”

Rabbi Kushner says he put as much thought into the very last page of this book as he has in all the pages of all his other books combined, knowing it would probably be the last page he ever publishes. It’s a letter he wrote, and titled:

“A Love Letter to a World That May or May Not Deserve it.”

Dear World,

 We’ve been through a lot together over the past eight decades, you and I.  Marriages, births, deaths, fulfillment and dis-appointment, war and peace, good times and hard times. There were days when you were more generous to me than I could possibly have deserved. And there were days when you cheated me out of things I felt I was entitled to. There were days when you looked so achingly beautiful that I could hardly believe you were mine, and days when you broke my heart and reduced me to tears. But with it all, I choose to love you. I love you, whether you deserve it or not (and how does one measure that?) I love you in part because you are the only world I have. I love you because I like who I am better when I do. But mostly I love you because loving you makes it easier for me to be grateful for today and hopeful about tomorrow. Love does that.

 Faithfully yours,  Harold Kushner



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